We recently watched a movie called Wit in my pastoral care context. It is about a woman, Vivian, with terminal cancer and about the care she receives. It is told from her perspective and depicts her last months of life as she goes through treatment, grapples with forgiveness and loneliness, and reflects on the meaning of life and death. Ah…THE MOVIE…what am emotional experience that sheds light on the medical system and how it treats symptoms and collects research rather than healing the patient (healing…not curing, necessarily). The beauty of it is that it was written and acted in such a way that I could see myself in all the characters. I often enter a room thinking “I need to complete this spiritual profile” rather than thinking “I wonder how pastoral care fits into this person’s life.” In that way, am I any different than the doctor collecting research when I am collecting spiritual profiles? The place where I do find that I can be present and meet pastoral care needs as they arise is the 3rd floor. And, I’ve definitely been in Vivian’s place where I needed help and didn’t want to ask for it and finally gave in to realize that people are out there that would like to help me. I can’t say that I’m as isolated as she was, but I do often wonder about the isolation of illness and how boring it might be to sit in an unfamiliar place for days on end. And the nurse—she seemed to epitomize the conflict between the sterility of medical care and the comfort (hopefully) of pastoral care. She knew she was there to perform medical duties but she was also the one that talked with Virginia about end of life decisions and she advocated for Virginia when the Resident tried to revive her after she had died. My favorite scene was the mentor come back to comfort Virginia and her reading The Runaway Bunny. She commented, about the book, “Look here, so many times God is calling us home.” Wow! I was struck by the juxtaposition of the whimsical drawings in the book and the serious message that God calls us home. But, like the book, we are children (God’s children) and God is constantly calling us home—calling us to return to God. What is I used that fact to guide my pastoral care? That is something I can think about for the rest of my lifetime!
The Movie ‘Wit’ and Pastoral Care
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